waiting for the one – Natasha Sapienza

“Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse” News!

Who remembers this:

Well, read on 🙂

By the time I was sixteen, I became a pro at falling in infatuation with guys, and they were pros at falling out of infatuation with me.

The definition of infatuation is literally:

“an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.”

But God redeemed my break up expertise and now, after being happily married for almost seven years, I have some wisdom to share so you can stop cheating on your future spouse and instead prepare for him or her.

Are you a single Christian waiting for a spouse? Have you tasted the waters of different men or women in search of “the one,” only to walk away thirsty? Is there a best way to prepare for your future husband or wife?

In this short, easy to grasp eBook, single Christians will learn how to not cheat on their future spouse, and how best to prepare for him or her.

If you’ve seen my “Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse” YouTube video and want to have a more in-depth and practical guide on this topic, Don’t Cheat On Your Future Spouse is for you!

Get it here on Amazon for Kindle eReader or for the free Kindle app.

Until next time, ladies, know your worth!

Why You’re Not “Manifesting Your Godly Man”

I recently watched a video from a sister I believe was well-intentioned. She was offering advice to single women on how to “manifest their godly man,” i.e., their future husbands. Her advice included things you could do and certain types of “energy” you can put out there to “attract” a godly man.

There’s several things wrong with her advice. For one, energy is super new age and it’s arbitrary and I think she’s definitely misusing the term by trying to fit it into a biblical context. It’s not about energy, it’s about God’s will and your obedience. Period. I’ll expound on that in a moment.

She mentioned how being the most confident woman in the room can attract your godly man, and how you want a man with “swag.” Here’s what she didn’t realize she actually did: she created a straw-man of what a godly guy is. She put all of God’s sons into a box that fit HER type and is trying to use what worked for HER in getting HER man for YOU and YOUR future man. But not every man exudes “swag” which, in my opinion, can be anything from cockiness, to worldliness, to being fashionable, or metro-sexual.

Not every man of God has “swag” and not every woman of God likes “swag.” Some women of God like farmer-types, or biker-types, or geeky-types, which, even types shouldn’t matter as much as his godly character should.

Not every man is attracted to super confident, out there, loud or whatever she means by “the most confident woman in the room.” Some men are drawn to quiet, mysterious women. Some men are attracted to a woman who doesn’t even realize how beautiful she is. Some men like the Ruths who are sweaty and dirty, serving the Lord out on the ministry field. You don’t have to do X,Y,Z methods, or change your personality and appearance to attract a godly husband.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”-Proverbs 31:30

I have met married women who are so humble, so gentle, and certainly don’t come across as “the most confident woman in the room,” and their husbands ADORE them.

So if you are not supremely confident, or extroverted, don’t beat yourself up or think you’re doing the wrong things and that’s why no man has noticed you.

What if you haven’t received a godly husband yet because you haven’t attained “godliness with contentment?” Or haven’t been faithful with the little God has given you, so He is waiting until you’re faithful to give you more (a husband and a family)? Or what if God prefers you to be single?

At the end of the day, the most important thing is just being content in Christ alone–your Spiritual Husband–before receiving an earthly husband. Because if you aren’t content with Christ, what makes you think you’ll be content with an imperfect, broken son of His?

My advice: learn to be content and thankful. Don’t covet what you don’t have, but be grateful for all that you do have. Be open to God’s will and whether He wants you to be married or not, always remember:

“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”-Romans 12:2

Ladies, don’t try and wake up Adam before you’re ready for him

Before reading Genesis chapter two the other night I asked the Lord to give me a revelation. So I start, and God answers my prayer.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place.Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Genesis 2:21-22

God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam. In other words, God made sure this man wouldn’t wake up until Eve was good and ready for him. I noticed that he was already ready for her. Why? Well, since Adam was made first, He already met the Lord, knew the Lord, walked with the Lord, and understood what he was to do, what God’s will for his life was. So he was now prepared to lead and love a woman. She, however, needed to also meet God, spend some time getting to know Him, and then, “God brought her to the man.”

I’m not saying the man is always ready before the woman. Sometimes he’s ready first, sometimes you’re ready first, and sometimes, neither of you are ready yet! So the one may very well already be in your life, but one of you, or both of you don’t even know it yet because there’s a deep sleep over you, and the Lord is preparing you for one another. Isn’t God awesome, that He takes His time preparing you guys for each other? He doesn’t just throw you together and hope for the best. He makes sure you’re as ready as you’ll ever be. And the obvious credentials for being ready are

Having a personal encounter with the Lord
In response to that encounter, you get to know him (establish a love-relationship with Him)
Know what He’s calling you to do in life

Why does God prefer you know what He’s calling you to do before He brings the person He’s appointed you to marry? Probably so you can better discern who the one is (this person will share your passions and be called in some way into the ministry God is calling you into).

So, don’t get discouraged, but rather be encouraged that God is preparing you both for one another, and when the time is perfect, He’ll bring you to each other. Just focus on loving Him more.

Until next time.

Know Your Worth.

Love,

Natasha

Let’s get real: Why do you want to get married?

Non-Christians have influenced even Christians to believe that marriage is for the sole purpose of ‘being happy.’ The idea is so far from what God intended marriage to be it’s no wonder both non-Christians and Christians alike are divorcing as much as cats reproduce.

Finding that special someone to be happily married to for the rest of your life is, in all honesty, (sorry if I’m about to offend you), selfish.

Relationships (in the mind of those who ignore the Bible), consist of sexual attraction and personality compatibility. When really:

Relationship is a compound word derived from two words, ‘Relation’ and ‘Ship’‘ relation ’ comes from the Latin word ‘ relatus ’ which means to bring back or restore to a former state. The word ‘ -ship ’ comes from the base word ‘ scip ’ which means a condition of being. So if we combine the meaning of the compound word ‘relation-ship’ we would derive a definition which reads: to bring back or restore to a former state or condition of being.If that definition holds true, then that means that the innate human desire to bond and connect is the consequence of one searching to be restored back to their former state or condition of being. (Peter Honore’s, REALationship)

So, what “former state of being” are we trying to come back to? The first relationship was between Adam and Eve, the first human beings to walk the earth that God made. God put Adam to sleep, and then taking one of his ribs, formed Eve. Then He woke Adam up, and presented Eve to him. So Eve was made by something once belonging to Adam, something that now, after God formed her, was missing. To get back to his former state, he needed to do what God commanded him to:

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.-Genesis 2:24

Adam needed to join himself [in marriage] with Eve, and once that marriage was established, they would become one flesh, as if he never even lost the rib to begin with.

Okay, something key here is that before God made Eve, He stated what her purpose would be in regards to Adam, her ‘the one’:

It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.-Genesis 2:18

See ladies, we are to help the man we can’t wait to meet and marry someday. No where does it talk about happiness. Now, that’s not to say that there isn’t naturally feelings of bliss when discovering that person God has chosen you for and chose him for you, but those feelings begin to fade as responsibilities mount, and then you realize God loves your decision to marry, but Satan hates it.

(Side note: Satan hates marriage because it was something created by God to exemplify His love relationship with His people. Hence, he attacks marriages so arduously because he does not want people to witness that kind of sacrificial love and make the connection to Jesus and the church).

So, you’re all blissful on the honeymoon, but then BAM! Satan strikes! And you’re like, “Oh shoot, this is all out war!” You realize when God said Eve was going to be a ‘suitable helper’ for Adam, that God, knowing all things, knew Satan was going to wage war against the man, Adam, and against marriages, and that Adam would need backup. Trust me, back in ’09 when Jonathan and I met, the feelings of bliss were off the roof. But soon after we got married, spiritual attacks heightened against my husband. I used to pray for Jonathan before we were married, but now, I pray for him A LOT more. I see how much more Satan has been bombarding him, and understand that my purpose in being his wife is to help him–exactly what God said about Eve.

So don’t be so bent out of shape about being single. Trust me, it’s easier. Marriage is war–not against one another, but against the devil and his workers. But God is WAY stronger than Satan, and those who trust in His Son, are also WAY stronger than him.

Behold! I have given you authority and power to trample upon serpents and scorpions, and [physical and mental strength and ability] over all the power that the enemy [possesses]; and nothing shall in any way harm you. (Luke 10:19 Amplified Bible)

See, because me and my husband are both Christians, we can cling to this promise. And I can testify that for the two years and two months that we’ve been married, our marriage has been getting stronger and stronger.

Romance isn’t love. It’s romance. Any man can do it, whether he genuinely loves you or not. The evidence of true love is sacrifice. Does that man sacrifice hanging out with his boys so he can be with you? Does he do the dangerous thing like walking the dog at night, making sure you’re in the house with your cell phone, ready to call him if YOU need anything (this is routine with Jonathan <3)? Does he work hard to make sure he can pay all the bills, not spending the money on his desires (Jonathan wants to be a film-maker, he’s been writing a television series for years that he wants to film himself, but hasn’t bought the camera yet because he’s paying 99% of the bills)? See, this ladies, is real love. Not how many dates he takes you on, or how much he spends on those dates, or how much he lays his paws on you (I use the term paws for boyfriends because your body does not belong to him, he has not earned the right to it).

Once you allow God to satisfy your greatest need (love), and then grasp what marriage truly is and are as ready as can be for it, He will send that person. Just trust Him. He loves you too much to send the guy ahead of time. If He does, chances are you’ll end up like many other rushy Christians who bought into the lie that marriage is all about personal happiness: divorced.

With love and sincere concern,

Natasha

Ladies AND gentlemen, send in your relationship and God questions to Jonathan (my hubby), and I.

I was thinking about it, and for the next video I’m just going to have me and my husband tag-teaming your relationship and God questions =)) So, continue to send ’em in. We’re close to having enough questions to make the next video for you all. Until then, know your worth!

With love,

Natasha

Get it together, there is a “The One” out there.

And so, I make my case.

Adam, the first man to walk the earth, is just enjoying the beautiful Garden of Eden, naming all the animals, hanging out with God all day, when God realizes, “Something isn’t right here…”

“It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18)

So, God *made* a woman specifically for Adam and then brought her to him.

For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].-Ephesians 2:10 (Amplified)

If God has planned beforehand paths that we should walk in I believe that would include who we marry, since He takes marriage so seriously.

[Jesus speaking] “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”

He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”

So God wants you to be with one person for the rest of your life. The person He “joined you to.”

(Side note: Since we have free will, the person He appoints to marry you, may very well decide not to. In that case, God will appoint someone else. No worries.)

Now that that’s established, you do have to be prepared for that person.

“How do I prepare myself?”

Fall in love with Jesus.

It’s as simple as that. “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything you need and more will be given to you.” -Jesus (paraphrased from Amplified Matthew 6:33)

Trust me ladies, God brought me a guy that is perfect for me. Not perfect. But perfect for me. We’re both actors and writers. He wants to make film, write it, direct it, etc. and I also write films and act. Our ministries go hand-in-hand. It’s not like he’s a professional football player and I’m a doctor. Let’s face it, that would not have worked out very well. Where I’m weak, he’s strong, and vice versa.

If you have the desire to marry, God’s put it there. But you cannot let that desire overshadow your desire for God. He must remain number One in your heart. He’s so in love with you that He wants to protect you. How does He do that? Ensuring that your trust (your complete love and devotion) goes to Him first, the only One Who will never let you down. If you allow the one He wants you to marry to come before Him, you’re setting yourself up for some serious heart-break.

Once Jonathan made me cry (he’s made me cry more than that. Don’t gasp, I told you he wasn’t perfect, and neither am I), and this is what God showed me when I flung open my Bible: