Tragically, I think a lot of Christian women realize after marriage that it doesn’t matter how nice or romantic a guy is if he isn’t a devout Christ follower.
Some marry the man because they’re in sexual sin and think marriage would honor the Lord. They fail to realize that being unequally yoked is also displeasing to God, and He says in the Scriptures:
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” Therefore “Come out from among them And be separate, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, And I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, And you shall be My sons and daughters, Says the LORD Almighty.” (II Corinthians 6:14-18 NKJV)
God says to do the complete opposite when it comes to being in a relationship with an unbeliever: come out from among them and be separate. He most certainly does not advise you to marry this person.
It is better to be single for however long God desires, than to marry the wrong man and be diverted from your calling and drawn away from the faith. Husbands are supposed to lead, so how can you marry a man who is leading you to satan? The bible is clear: unbelievers are under Satan’s influence and are his children, whether they know it or not. They cannot please God, because they operate in the flesh. Is this the kind of man you want leading you and your future children?
Too often, we foolishly live in the moment and ignore the future consequences until it’s too late and we are drowning in them. This goes for two self-professing Christians as well who are in sexual sin and plan marriage as a way of escape. You must stop sinning before you get into marriage. You can’t keep living together and sleeping together because you plan on eventually getting married. What if you die tonight in your sin and face God? Do not the Scriptures say:
“Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, or anyone practicing homosexuality, no thieves, greedy people, drunkards, verbally abusive people, or swindlers will inherit God’s kingdom.” (1 Corinthians 6:9-10)
You must repent and be separate until your wedding day. Sanctify yourself before you stand upon that sacred altar before the Holy God and make commitments you have already broken. Understand that God is a loving Father, but He is also an avenger of wrongdoers:
“Finally then, brothers, we ask and encourage you in the Lord Jesus, that as you have received from us how you must walk and please God — as you are doing — do so even more. For you know what commands we gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this is God’s will, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality, so that each of you knows how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not with lustful desires, like the Gentiles who don’t know God. This means one must not transgress against and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger of all these offenses, as we also previously told and warned you. For God has not called us to impurity but to sanctification. Therefore, the person who rejects this does not reject man, but God, who also gives you His Holy Spirit.” (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 HCSB)
If you are in this situation, you know what you need to do. If you love Jesus, you will obey Him. His plans for you are good, pleasing, acceptable and perfect. He desires the best for you and trust me, He knows better than we do what’s good and what is not.
If you’re single, you also know what to do. Wait for the right man of God. Do not settle and sin.
If you are married to an unbeliever, keep clinging to Jesus. Perhaps your husband will come to Christ eventually. If he leaves you, you are free from your vows. Otherwise, be the best example you can be to him and your children. Pray always. Keep your hope in the resurrection, not on things on the earth.
May we always allow the Spirit to lead us, denying our flesh, and trusting our Master and Savior, for His sake, our sake, and the sake of others.
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