“He brought me to the banqueting house, And his banner over me was love. Sustain me with cakes of raisins, Refresh me with apples, For I am lovesick. His left hand is under my head, And his right hand embraces me. I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, By the gazelles or by the does of the field, Do not stir up nor awaken love Until it pleases.” (Song of Solomon 2:4-7 NKJV)
Why hadn’t I read this passage before I walked into kindergarten? From the moment I rested my big hazel eyes on Bobby Well, I made a habit of stirring up love. And you know what happens when you stir up love before you’re ready to? Heartbreak.
Break-up after break-up, disappointment on top of disappointment. I’d built a tower of broken dreams where I sat trapped at the pinnacle just like Rapunzel (except a wicked step-mother hadn’t locked me there, I did).
I thought I was ready for love. And when I was sixteen, I convinced myself I was totally ready for a relationship. How did I know? My feelings told me so. No one older and wiser told me, I just thought that since I wanted it so bad, I was ready for it.
Word of advice: just because we want something, doesn’t mean we’re ready for it.
I learned that the hard way—many times. I’m hoping this blog will be used by God to spare you from the heartbreak I threw myself into time and again.
I don’t know when you’ll be ready for a relationship (and by relationship I mean a serious one that you enter into with the goal being possible marriage). But I do know if you spend your time getting to know Jesus, spending time with Him, and growing in love with Him, you’re on the right track. And as long as you stay on this track, if and when you meet your future spouse won’t matter much. You’ll be so distracted by Jesus, He’ll take you by the hand and bring you to the man. And who better to play Cupid than the All-knowing One who has specific plans for you that are “good, acceptable, pleasing, and perfect?”
So beautiful princesses, please don’t awaken love until its time. I promise you, True Love is always worth the wait.