Jesus isn’t trying to rain on your parade; He simply desires to protect you from the storms that come from disobedience.
God is Love. Every single thing He does and says is good because He is Love. When He commands you not to be with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14-18), He commands it from love. He knows every outcome, and desires to spare you from that so you won’t die. Sin, which is disobedience to God, ends in death.
When your heart is broken by this man, you may despair, or become bitter, and then never come back to the arms of True Love because you don’t believe a real, pure love exists. Or you get so caught up in the emotions of fake love (infatuation) that you’re distracted from the all-amazing, all-consuming Real Love; Jesus Himself.
If a man isn’t pointing you to Christ, chances are, although he genuinely may not know it, he’s pointing you to himself and ultimately Satan. You might’ve gasped right now, but please allow me to explain.
All sin is rebellion against God. Satan rebelled against God, and the Bible says he was cast out of heaven and into earth. Paul writes to the Ephesians:
“And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience” (Ephesians 2:1, 2)
So Satan is at work in the lives of those who are in disobedience to God. It’s very serious because Jesus taught that the enemy is the father of all lies, and that he comes to kill, steal, and destroy.
When you’re with someone under that influence, they may not literally murder you one day (though it’s certainly possible), but what you have is a lie. It’s not real love because God is Love and one cannot give true love, Jesus’ love, unless they have Jesus. All they can give is a counterfeit version of love, a worldly version which focuses on personality compatibility, physical attraction, and sexual gratification.
Whereas, when a man who has, knows, and loves Jesus loves you, he loves you with patience (he’ll wait for you till marriage, he won’t yell at you to finish getting ready, he won’t be short-tempered), he will love you with kindness: he won’t put you down, he’ll build you up (please don’t confuse kindness with charm which is deceptive. Charm is seductive, flattery). When a man who is a true disciple of Jesus loves you, he won’t fight, flatter, seduce, or manipulate to get his way because he is not selfish. He will not look out for his own interests, but truly sacrifice for your best interest. He doesn’t boast in himself or his accomplishments, he boasts in who Jesus is. He doesn’t envy anyone, he doesn’t spend himself on trying to get fame, a title, or recognition. He is completely content and satisfied with whatever he has because he knows Christ is more than enough. He is not conceited, but humble. He won’t keep a record of wrongs, bringing up your past, or holding grudges. He will not applaud wickedness, rejoicing when others do sinful things, but he will rejoice when the Truth of Christ wins out.
My dear sisters, please deeply consider your relationship. If you know this man doesn’t love Jesus, how can he truly love you? I fear for you, that you will miss out on True love because you’re so distracted and trapped by the counterfeit love, and would even forfeit your soul for this fake love, choosing to continue in it rather than forsake it and run into the arms of Love Himself.
Love isn’t a feeling. It’s a person, and that person is Jesus. Anyone who does not have Him, loves you in a worldly, sensual way that is pleasing to the senses, but not satisfying to the spirit. Why? Because it is an earthly love, not a perfect heavenly love. Why would you compromise a divine, true love for a worldly lie?
I pray that you forsake all lies in your life and run to Truth, run to Love.
Run to Jesus.