We women can disrespect men in a number of ways, sometimes knowingly, most times unknowingly.
When a man puts up with the disrespect of a woman not yet his wife, it is because He does not know Jesus, or does not know Him well enough, hence he has never experienced real love and therefore cannot discern true love from false love. He does not know that God is love and tells us clearly what true love from a woman looks like:
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:10-12)
When a godly woman loves a man, he knows he can trust her because she walks with dignity and fears the Lord. She does not live for herself, but for the One who created her. She desires to honor Him and because of that, she desires to honor her husband in all things, enriching his life by supporting him, encouraging him, and respecting him. She causes others to praise her husband by the goodness she brings him. She walks modestly and keeps her eyes solely for her husband. She does not incite other men or flirt with them to get him jealous. She walks with purity and holiness.
I pray for the poor souls of men who have yet to experience Christ’s love and are thus enduring the dishonor and disrespect of women who do not love God.
Ladies, I know I usually speak to you, but tonight my heart went out to a young man I saw get disgraced by his fiancé. I know not every unbelieving woman goes the extra mile to disrespect her fiancé or husband, but respecting a man is a sin-struggle all women battle with. But a woman can only really be able to show respect most of the time (I say most because none of us are perfect), if she loves Jesus and desires to obey Him. For the Bible commands wives to respect their husbands (and it commands husbands to love their wives).
When we do this, our marriages are so much more fruitful and beautiful and God-honoring. But when we refuse to do this, the outcome is the destruction of our relationship and the emasculating of our husbands.
Please, if you want to love a man the right way, you must first love Jesus and obey Him. You do this by trusting that He is the Son of God that lived the perfect life you can’t and therefore made a way to heaven by His sacrifice on the cross and His resurrection from the dead. When you do that and confess Him as Lord, turning away from your sins and instead running to Him, He will gift you His Holy Spirit to help you live the way He created you to and allow you to experience Him personally. I pray for both the man and woman reading this blog who have yet to experience the amazing love of Christ. I pray you surrender to His love and allow Him to show you and teach you what real love is. There is nothing better than knowing and walking in the love of Jesus.