Ladies, before you start looking for a man (which you should never do by the way–that’s the Lord’s job), you need to become the LORD’s wife. You need to come to such a place of intimacy and closeness with Jesus, that it doesn’t even MATTER if He brings you an earthly husband or not. Otherwise, you will NEVER be joyful.
I will take you to be My wife forever.
I will take you to be My wife in righteousness,
justice, love, and compassion.
I will take you to be My wife in faithfulness,
and you will know Yahweh. -Hosea 2:19-20
God can and wants to be so fulfilling to you that you need NO ONE ELSE. What happens when you are not completely satisfied in Him, is this delusion that if you had a husband, you’d be complete. You begin to fantasize and hope and hunt for a man and in many cases, since you’re not ready for the man God’s preparing you for, you’ll end up settling for a guy who is NOT the man of God appointed for you, and you make a huge mess out of your life AND his life, and God is watching you like, “Why didn’t you just obey my simple command: seek Me diligently.”
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.” -Hosea 4:6
I promise you, jumping into a relationship when you have yet to become fulfilled in Christ, WILL destroy you. And you may or very possibly may NOT ever come back after that destruction (I know of people who the outcome has gone both ways). Sexual immorality is a VERY powerful demonic stronghold that opens the doors for a flood of different demons to pour in and cause suicidal thoughts, lying, manipulation, perversion–the list goes on. Do not allow your “deceitful and wicked hearts” to control you. You must surrender YOUR WILL to God, and allow Him to give you new desires–HIS desires–so that you won’t be destroyed by foolishness and sin, but will walk strong and empowered, led by His Holy Spirit, into the eternal resting place He is preparing for you.
And realize, if you are not a faithful and committed wife to Your Husband Christ first, what makes you think you will be faithful and committed to an earthly husband?
Pray. Ask the LORD to really take all of your heart, to be not just your Savior, but Lord of every area of your life. Seek Him diligently. Read His Word, pray fervently, allow Him to be your husband.
Know your worth,