And so, I make my case.
Adam, the first man to walk the earth, is just enjoying the beautiful Garden of Eden, naming all the animals, hanging out with God all day, when God realizes, “Something isn’t right here…”
“It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” (Genesis 2:18)
So, God *made* a woman specifically for Adam and then brought her to him.
For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].-Ephesians 2:10 (Amplified)
If God has planned beforehand paths that we should walk in I believe that would include who we marry, since He takes marriage so seriously.
[Jesus speaking] “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
So God wants you to be with one person for the rest of your life. The person He “joined you to.”
(Side note: Since we have free will, the person He appoints to marry you, may very well decide not to. In that case, God will appoint someone else. No worries.)
Now that that’s established, you do have to be prepared for that person.
“How do I prepare myself?”
Fall in love with Jesus.
It’s as simple as that. “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything you need and more will be given to you.” -Jesus (paraphrased from Amplified Matthew 6:33)
Trust me ladies, God brought me a guy that is perfect for me. Not perfect. But perfect for me. We’re both actors and writers. He wants to make film, write it, direct it, etc. and I also write films and act. Our ministries go hand-in-hand. It’s not like he’s a professional football player and I’m a doctor. Let’s face it, that would not have worked out very well. Where I’m weak, he’s strong, and vice versa.
If you have the desire to marry, God’s put it there. But you cannot let that desire overshadow your desire for God. He must remain number One in your heart. He’s so in love with you that He wants to protect you. How does He do that? Ensuring that your trust (your complete love and devotion) goes to Him first, the only One Who will never let you down. If you allow the one He wants you to marry to come before Him, you’re setting yourself up for some serious heart-break.
Once Jonathan made me cry (he’s made me cry more than that. Don’t gasp, I told you he wasn’t perfect, and neither am I), and this is what God showed me when I flung open my Bible:
It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in princes.-Psalms 118:9
Heed that verse, and everything will gallop into place. I promise.
Know your worth,