Many of us have been there (I’m a witness). And if you’re there now, I’m speaking to you honey. If your ex is giving you problems, whether it be, “I don’t know if I want to be with you,” or, “I’m too busy,” or you both keep fighting, to make it simple: let go and let God. Sure, I know it sometimes sounds easier said than done, but hear me on this, it is possible. The key: accountability.
Accountability is when someone, or a few people, are reminding you why you should do and need to do whatever it is you know deep down you have to. In this case, let go of your ex. How do they do this? It starts with you being open and honest. Let them know when you’re dying to text him or give him a call or see him. Instead of calling him, however, you call the person or accountability partner. Then, when you’re feeling weak, they can remind you why you shouldn’t call him and you’ll be able to gain the strength not to. BUT, before you can get this accountability partner(s), you need divine support.
Innately, what we know about God is that He is powerful. Scratch that, He’s all-powerful. Some of us however, don’t know that He is love. Knowing He is first love itself is essential. This is key to know because you can’t just cut off the source you’re getting love from (aka your ex) without replacing that source with love. Love is extremely powerful, when you’re getting it from a boyfriend and then you have to cut him off, it’s like cutting off the major arteries to your heart. You can’t do this, because you very well may begin to die inside.
When calling out to God, you may not know what to say. Thankfully, it isn’t complicated. Think of it like if you’re calling your best friend in the whole world who loves you unconditionally. That’s exactly how it is when you talk to God. He’s not sitting in heaven with His arms crossed with a frown on His face. This, is what Jesus said to exemplify how God reacts when someone who has run away from Him, decides to run towards Him.
A man had two sons. The younger son told his father, ‘I want my share of your estate now before you die.’ So his father agreed to divide his wealth between his sons.
“A few days later this younger son packed all his belongings and moved to a distant land, and there he wasted all his money in wild living. About the time his money ran out, a great famine swept over the land, and he began to starve. He persuaded a local farmer to hire him, and the man sent him into his fields to feed the pigs. The young man became so hungry that even the pods he was feeding the pigs looked good to him. But no one gave him anything.
“When he finally came to his senses, he said to himself, ‘At home even the hired servants have food enough to spare, and here I am dying of hunger! I will go home to my father and say, “Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son. Please take me on as a hired servant.”’
“So he returned home to his father. And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. His son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son.’
“But his father said to the servants, ‘Quick! Bring the finest robe in the house and put it on him. Get a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet. And kill the calf we have been fattening. We must celebrate with a feast, for this son of mine was dead and has now returned to life. He was lost, but now he is found.’ So the party began.” (Luke 15:11-24)
After you’ve been embraced with Love, ask for accountability partners to be placed in your path. From that point, you can truly let go and let God do His thing. That’s what I did and my goodness am I eternally grateful that I chose to. Within six days my heart was healed and within less than a week in a half an accountability partner was placed in my life. Since then, I’ve had several others, holding me accountable during different situations and areas of my life that I struggled with. He’s been faithful and I’m no more special than you are. It’ll work out girl, don’t lose hope. It’ll hurt at first, but it’s better to be hurt for a short time, then to regret it and be hurt in the long run.